A bit that it is ridiculous to encourage young people to abstain from sex until marriage in today’s society…this was in the week leading up to a Doodles on ‘Sex and relationships’ which never happened and so as a result this blog joined the list of ‘Draft Posts’ on my blog ago I started writing a blog on sex before marriage following a comment I head from someone (Christian) who suggested.
The thing is that sex before wedding is just a massive subject
And I’m perhaps perhaps not sure many Christians would argue the biblical foundation for awaiting intercourse until your married and if I’m honest I think Jesus does tell us that waiting to possess intercourse before wedding may be the most readily useful concept and I also think maybe people have actually shown that whenever we glance at the number of dilemmas men and women have due to being intimately promiscuous.
The One thing I’ve be more mindful of recently, particually in more youthful Christians (or instead my age) is the fact that things culture generally seems to state is definately fine Christians appear to have purchased into, the concept compromised… I don’t know that it’s okay to get drunk (particually on birthdays), the idea that perhaps fooling around with the opposite sex is fine and perhaps even swearing becomes something!
The situation with this particular is that individuals start to split Christianity plus the need for the bible, then surely sex before marriage doesn’t need to be questioned if we believe that the bible is God’s word and that God never changes his mind?
The truth is that people interpret this might be various ways, therefore the issue with intimately related ‘naughties’ is very often it is simple to twist our interpretation to match that which we want, so we believe that after we form our views on ‘how far is too far?’ or have that ‘boundaries’ discussion we must be thinking when we truly believe what we’re saying or if perhaps we think we’re fiddling God’s word to accommodate ourselves.
I’ve frequently heard people say ‘it’s okay to have sex…we’re going to get married’, the difficulty with this specific is the fact that it is naive, you will never know just exactly what might happen in a relationship whether you’re close and everything’s cool or otherwise not as well as then surely it’s the same as a child opening all his gifts on Christmas eve if sex is meant to be a wedding gift from God as I’ve often heard preached?
I’ve additionally heard people state that in God’s eyes as soon as you’ve had intercourse you’re married…the problem using this is the fact it misses a few points. Firstly if (as Christians) we’re meant to respect the legislation of your nation then whether we think intercourse = wedding or otherwise not the truth is we’re not married within the eyes of our nation.
The 2nd issue with that view is the fact that actually into the bible we read ‘for this explanation a guy will keep their Father and Mother and stay united as you together with his wife’…in the intercourse = marriage situation I’m not convinced that there’s any making of mum’s and dad’s 9 times away from 10. One other issue is which in fact that is (for me) the incorrect interpretation of wedding in the bible.
Usually in biblical times before a person could marry their fiance he will have to build an expansion on their moms and dads household he discusses there being many rooms in his Father house), in other biblical times the marriage was official after sex but there was ceremonies before that (often followed by the bridge and groom going into a tent to ‘do it’ with their guests waiting outside) for them to live in (this is similar to what Jesus talks about when.
Finally i believe the ‘sex = marriage approach that is value of wedding, i really do maybe perhaps perhaps not think that Jesus intends intercourse to function as the just significant different in marriage, in my opinion that Jesus intends wedding become 2 individuals providing by by themselves entirely to one another, two different people committing to love one another through the nice while the bad times while the effortless as well as the crisis.
But we plainly reside in a culture that claims intercourse is ok, a culture that pressures us to get rid of virginity (possibly the movie US Pie sums this view up) therefore can it be practical of us you may anticipate young adults to conserve on their own with regards to their future missus (or mister)?</p>
Maybe there are many more pressures around today to own sex than there has ever been but i believe there are two main things we must explain to teenagers on the problem of ‘sex before marriage’
Firstly we must inform you that it’s fairly easy with God’s assistance – we have to help young individuals realise so it’s perhaps maybe not a daunting, impossible target but one thing you’ll handle with God’s assistance, when you’re mature about boundaries with boyfriends/girlfriends and in addition (much life with alcohol) once you understand your limits…if after kissing a lady you’ve got an unhealthy desire to possess sex with her (and will probably then is the fact that a good concept? Exactly the same is true of every thing as much as intercourse from ‘hand sex’ to sex’ that is‘oral.
Next we must make clear the thought of God’s forgivenesss, many times young adults feel shame whenever they’ve made errors within the intimate area, and sometimes i believe the church causes that guilt without meaning too, we have to keep in mind (particually youth workers) for a mistake that we are there to not just show young people that God can help them save themselves but at the same time help young people realise that ultimately they have a loving God who will forgive them not a God who’ll turn his back on them.
I think that today our message of looking forward to intercourse until marriage isn’t any different it doesn’t matter what society states, and I also think that we must assist young individuals realise that, we want to challenge societies views at exactly the same time showing the planet a loving, forgiving Jesus.